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When you think about what it takes to be successful in a career
over the long haul, you might cite a need for intelligence,
determination, strategic thinking, or the ability to communicate
ideas effectively. While all these and other character traits
will facilitate ones ability to create good results, there is
another important characteristic that often goes unrecognized
and is rarely discussed. That important character trait is
resilience: your bounce-back ability.
In coaching and training entrepreneurs and executives, Ive
noticed that how you react to whats done to you is as important
as what you do. We can make detailed strategic plans, begin
daily activities to move us forward, put structures in place
that support us in creating what we wantbut the world will
always throw us unexpected changes and unanticipated events.
Betty Talmadge, an American meat broker and cookbook author, is
the one who first said, "Life is what happens to you when youre
making other plans." We cannot control anything or anyone else,
and we create a lot of disappointment and frustration (as well
as waste a lot of our life energy) when we try.
Life happens. You might be passed over for a promotion, or you
might be laid off. The bid youve worked on for three weeks
might go to another firm; your great assistant could move to
Tahiti. Your computer and its contents could be consumed by a
virus; your building could be flooded or your car stolen. At
some point in everyones life, setback occurs.
How you respond to what happens is what will make the greatest
difference for you, both personally and professionally. Your
resilience is what gives you the ability to get back up after
you have been knocked downeven after the second and third
rounds of having your plans pummeled.
If you think your bounce-back ability can use a
strength-training program, follow these principles to soar
through setbacks and keep your resilience revved up.
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Use Your Power of Choice Begin to look at how resilient you are
in everyday occurrences. Do you let traffic, a rude comment, a
delayed plane, a spilled cup of coffee, or a disappointing phone
call ruin your whole day, or do you consciously choose to bounce
right back? We do not always have a choice in what happens to
usbut we always have a choice about how we react to it.
Let It Out Talk it out with a friend, write it out in your
journal, cry it out on your couch, sweat it out in the gym. Do
whatever it takes to purge yourself of the emotion you feel over
this setback. The bigger the setback, the longer it takesand
the more emotion you have to purge. Do not stuff feelings about
the setback; acknowledge your anger, sadness, frustration or
fear. Once youre in touch with those feelings, work on
releasing them. A sense of closure or completion, which
eventually leads to peace, is necessary in order to move forward.
Look for the Lesson Setbacks serve. They bring with them lessons
about you, about life, about relationships. When a setback
erupts in your path, do not dowse the flames without first
examining its lesson. Learning the lessons that your setbacks
deliver to you is one of the ways you build your resilience.
Prepare yourself for the next surprise by learning something
from this onelook for the lesson.
Build on Past Successes Sometimes your setback might seem too
much to handle. There may be times you find it hard to go on,
especially after the significant personal loss of a relationship
or a loved one. To help yourself bounce back during such
difficult times, think about other challenges that you have
faced in your lifetime. Think about how you dealt with themand
how you came through them. What worked for you at those times?
Was it taking a vacation, talking to counselor, watching "I Love
Lucy" reruns, or taking a leave of absence from your job?
Whatever it was, ask yourself if it is time to do it again.
Plan Rejuvenation Sometimes when we experience a setback, it can
kick us into high gear. We force ourselves to try harder, work
longer, do more. If setbacks motivate you to take action, thats
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Self-nurturing, the time spent rejuvenating your energy and
replenishing your spirit, is more important after a setback than
at any other time. Go get a massage, take a yoga class, melt in
a tub of lavender suds, chat endlessly on the phone with a
friend. Do whatever it is that deeply nourishes you. Make the
care and feeding of yourself a top priority during times of
personal challenge. It will ensure that you bounce back faster.
Ask Yourself a Powerful Question Instead of asking yourself
questions that further burden youlike "How could this happen to
me?" or "What did I do to deserve this?"ask yourself powerful
questions that help build your resilience. Find ways to uplift
yourself; shift your view of the situation by asking questions
such as "How can I turn things around?" and "How can I support
myself during this challenging time?" Even if you dont get an
answer right away, keep asking yourself these powerful questions
until the guidance that will best serve you appears.
It is your ability to bounce back after setbacks that will keep
you successful and fulfilled over the long haul of your career
and your life. What matters is not how many times you find
yourself face down in the sand, but how many times you get back
up and dust yourself off. Take just one of these principles to
start with, then add another and another until resilient
responses are second-nature to you. As you build these skills,
why not start the day with this bold affirmation: "Go ahead,
Life, send me a setback. I eat setbacks for breakfast; they are
great fuel for the day!"
About the author:
Caterina Rando, MA, MCC, helps people achieve success with ease.
She is a success speaker, master certified coach and author of
the award winning national best-seller "Learn to Power Think."
To find out about her book, free e-zine, free articles and other
resources, visit http://www.caterinar.com. Caterina can also be
reached by email at cpr@caterinar.com.